Sex can be a fun and enjoyable experience, but it can also bring with it a lot of awkward situations. Whether you’re educated or more inadequately educated about the topic of sex, growing up, sexual issues are not really something that get addressed.
No one takes you aside and lets you know about premature ejaculation or erectile dysfunction. It’s as though these things are reserved for when you get older, so instead they sweep it under the rug. And the longer this goes on, the more this creates secrecy and taboo around these subjects. But it’s not just the one who experiences this personally that can feel awkward or embarrassed. If only they taught us easy ways to say, “honey, it seems as though your penis isn’t working too well, let’s get it checked out.”
Toxic masculinity also plays a part. We are still that society that sees women as the gatekeepers of sex, the ones who “take it” and men as the ones who should initiate and be responsible for delivering orgasms all around. But all that does is take the ownership of sexuality away from women and transfer it to men. A man’s sexual performance is so closely tied to his masculinity and this is where it becomes awkward.
So how do you deliver that blow?
Sometimes, there is no escaping uncomfortable conversations. They are a part of life and also often a part of sex. But within those awkward moments, there can be vulnerability and that can help to bring intimacy into a relationship. Who would have thought talking about a a flaccid penis could actually help your relationship? These are the types of issues a couple needs to work on together and this can build the strength to help you get through other issues that arise.
Before you launch into having that awkward chat, you need to consider this: how he addresses things in the bedroom might give you an indication of how he is going to discuss it with you. If it’s swept under the rug and not acknowledged, this might be an indication to tread carefully.
Here are a few tips on approaching the situation: